Reimagining SEL: Toward Relational and Ecological Integrity

I’ve been diving into updates in the literature and recently came across The Complicated Rise of Social Emotional Learning in the United States ( Dalrymple & Phillips, 2024 ), published in the Harvard Educational Review. The article traces the long and complex history of SEL, highlighting longstanding, well conceived programs —like Head Start and Yale Child Study Center’s School Development Program. These initiatives drew upon prevention science and developmental research, echoing the systems-based approach I advocate for today.

But there were also programs like DARE, which had a well-documented history of underwhelming results. In prevention science, it’s widely understood that telling people what not to do is far less effective than guiding them in what to do.

This article helped me pinpoint a critical turning point: 1985! That’s when things started to go off the rails. Schools began targeting children’s individual assets—trying to build social skills and reshape kids’ inner worlds. We started overlooking neurological development and instead attempted to teach coping strategies explicitly, aiming to overtly control emotions. That same year there was a push for creative conflict resolution among peers, super complex from an ethics and informed consent point of view, and social awareness and self-control became expected behaviors for young children—skills that often emerge later in life. Much of this programming is conceived from correlational research showing links to these assets and positive life outcomes, but correlation does not equate causation and explicit instruction for social emotional wellness makes little sense to many psychologists and counselors, myself included.

I was 12 in 1985, and thank goodness I seemed to have dodged those programs. But when you consider who was influencing mental health back then, it starts to make sense. I think about some of the influencers in the mental health space. The psychotherapy world was saturated with pop psychology and self-help. Primal scream therapy and encounter groups were still making the rounds! How do I know about these things? Some of those “hippies” trained me—they were my academic supervisors and mentors. And some of them were psychoanalysts, quite popular in 1985. And they love dissecting the individual psyche, it is their jam! Also, the Oprah Winfrey show started in 1986! Everyone was analyzing everyone! And so maybe it makes sense that SEL was trying to analyze and clinically intervening with kids rather than addressing systems and societal issues.

And I am sitting here thinking, "Why did they start picking on the kids!"

Instead of addressing chronic stress caused by societal neglect of kids' educational, medical, physiological, and nurturance needs, the focus turned toward the child as the problem in need of intervention. The “fix” for struggling children was to make them more socially aware, more sensitive, more controlled. Looking at the goals outlined in the article, it’s hard to miss how SEL began encouraging children to mask their thoughts and emotions—emotions that were, in fact, shaped by the conditions they were living in.

Programs launched after 1985 weren’t tackling root causes. They zeroed in on regulating the child. And notably, these interventions were disproportionately applied to children labeled “at risk,” especially in racially and economically marginalized communities. SEL became a tool to enforce “acceptable” behavior rather than nurture development.

Another striking detail from the article was the prominent role CASEL has played in all of this. So I had to ask: what is CASEL getting out of it?

According to Microsoft Co-Pilot, in 2024, CASEL—a nonprofit founded in 1994—reported $11.7 million in revenue and $11.9 million in expenses. The organization receives funding from major philanthropic players including the Gates Foundation, the Raikes Foundation, and the Salesforce Foundation. Their CEO’s compensation in 2023 was $287,785. With around 55 staff and broad institutional influence, CASEL has established itself as a powerful voice in shaping district-level SEL implementation.

So, I’m left frustrated that SEL devolved into a political tool, much like decisions to restructure schools into middle school models or track students without heeding research. SEL initiatives seem to echo the same pattern—adopting social skills groups without evaluating disparities or real-world applicability. The literature and real world application tells a story, but the practice continues, nonetheless, disconnected from best developmental and ecological thinking.

Raising Moxie charts a path forward—one that reclaims a focus on emotional development by centering relational attunement, adaptive stress exposure, and developmental alignment. Instead of reducing emotions to isolated behaviors, our approach connects stress exposure and emotional capacity to real-world relationships, ecological context, and attuned adult leadership. Current SEL often overlooks these foundations; we build from them.

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